Posted by AJCBSN on February 14, 2010
I have been divorced for 4 yrs, and have gone through alot of emotions before, during, and after. I have finally have closure on all of guilt and blaming. I have dated here and there over this time, but nothing real serious. Over the last few months I recently re-connected with a guy I dated college 20 yrs ago.We chated online for awhile about what has been going on in our lives. He too has been divorced only 4months. We finally met up right before New Year’s for drinks. Things were really nice, comfortable, and seemed to be going well. I didnt take it for much other than face value, and honestly had no expectations. We even joked about both being unsure if this was a “date”. I let him make the next move, whether he would call. and he did. Things seem to take off, he called, we texted, chatted online and phone. This was for about 3-4 weeks, then suddenly it all changed, he completely backed off. I finally said to him I do not want to be where I am not welcomed. He said rushes into things, wasnt looking for anything serious, and needs time, as he only has been divorced for a short time. He asked if I was mad, and I was honest, I told him I was feeling mad, hurt, and confused. I really started having feelings for this man, even in the short period of time, and I was mad at myself for letting this happen. About 1.1/2 wks went by I texted him a quick Hey how are things?. He responded, and then by that weekend we went out on another date. I felt I was not going to ask a million questions, hoping in the end he would bring it up, and he did. “I know yourmad at me” is how he started it, (this was the end of the night). He again explained, he basically needed to step back, he said “What am I doing here?”, then quickly said and not with me and not here, he is not a playboy and doesnt want to go date a million girls, and hasnt been with anyone since me. I responded with support knowing what he is going thorugh having been there. I havent heard from him since and its a week. Is this going anywhere? This is the first man I actually let my gaurd down and let in…Help….Help me know if I should hold out or let go….
Posted by Solutions for Women on October 28, 2009
Hormone Replacement Therapy
Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) does what the name says—it replaces hormones. Your body produces its own hormones, and during menopause, the level of hormones such as estrogen and progesterone naturally begins to drop. Changing hormone levels affect your natural hormonal balance, producing symptoms like hot flashes, night sweats, low libido, and others.
The March 2007 position statement of the North American Menopause Society supports previous research, which indicates that HRT can relieve menopausal symptoms but carries with it significantly increased risks for breast cancer, strokes, heart disease, dementia and blood clots. For many women, the risks outweigh any benefits they might experience. This data has left women with few safe options to alleviate their symptoms.
Is HRT Worth the Risk?
While Hormone Replacement Therapy may be effective for some in reducing symptoms of menopause, it is also proven to increase other threats to your health. Lower estrogen levels as we leave our childbearing years and enter our 40’s and 50’s are completely normal and natural. Our goal should be to age in optimum health and do all we can to minimize our risks.
A balanced herbal menopause supplement like Femmerol® is a first step and healthy choice for women seeking relief from menopause symptoms. The herbs used in Femmerol have never been implicated in cancers, heart attack, stroke, or blood clots. You can try Femmerol® first, as a positive first step to relieving menopause symptoms before taking on the risks associated with HRT.
Sexuality and Touch
Female sexuality by its very nature is a sensory experience involving our whole body and mind. There are many reasons for diminished libido, but the disruption of natural hormone balance often causes a noticeable decrease in libido, causing concern. Although sometimes it’s just a passing mood, there are physical menopausal symptoms like vaginal dryness and atrophy that can make sex uncomfortable and even painful. Menopausal symptoms and hormonal changes don’t need to interfere with your inner glow, your passion or true beauty. Femmerol can help. Experiment with some over-the-counter lubricates and speak with your partner. As women today strive to live more in balance, we are more inclined to pamper ourselves and take pleasure in daily rituals. Taking this time is more important than ever as you go through menopause, manage menopausal symptoms and reclaim your sexuality.
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Posted by Adminis on September 11, 2009
One of the key concepts on the Catch Him and Keep Him eBook by Christian Carter is communication. Any relationship – no matter if it is platonic, marital, casual or committed, will benefit or flounder in relation to the communication abilities of the partners.
I am sure that you have heard the catch phrase saying that men and women are two sides of the same coin or men are from Mars and Women are from Venus – or whatever it is you would like to say. Most people agree (including Christian carter) that men and women communicate in essentially different ways, though, no matter how you say it (I guess that is a bad pun!).
What most WOMEN need to realize, though, is that it is OK to NOT know, or even understand, what your man is thinking. Christian Carter stresses this in Catch Him and Keep Him, and says that this kind of rift is to be expected – after all – even Edward Cullen can’t read Bella’s mind!
One of the key mistakes that women make in relationships, though, stems from this urge to always know or understand what their man is thinking – we try to get HIM to VALIDATE what WE are thinking or feeling, because we feel it is essential to the understanding that we crave as women. (Christian Carter goes into this in depth in the Catch Him and Keep Him eBook, beginning on page 19).
So let’s take a minute to think about what Christian Carter is saying here …
1) Guys and gals think and react differently to almost every situation
2) Therefore – being unable (and UNEQUIPPED) to understand each other all the time is par for the course
3) If, then, we can expect to not understand men all the time, nor they us, how is it that we expect them to be ABLE to validate our feelings
4) If men are UNABLE to validate our feelings, why do we ask it of them, providing them with frustration for something they cannot do?
In other words, when you try to make a man validate your feelings – when you try to CONVINCE him to understand what you are feeling, saying or trying to do – you are, in essence, forcing him to conform to your ideas. Another way to say it is that you are trying to get him to tell you that what you are feeling is ok – like if he goes out with his friends for a night out and you get mad – perhaps you try to “talk” to him and MAKE him see how what he did it detrimental to your relationship – you are trying to get him to validate your feelings.
For men, Christian Carter says, this feels like needy behavior and many times they will agree with you just to make you stop. Not good. Mind you – Christian Carter is not saying it IS necessarily needy behavior, but he is saying it is how it is usually viewed by men.
As a woman, then, what should we DO about this validation problem?
The very simple answer to that is STOP. SCREW VALIDATION. You feel what you feel, and you are entitled to feel what you feel. You don’t have to have permission from your man to feel the way you do, and in truth, he does not have to understand it. So give YOURSELF permission to experience your own emotions and to have your own feelings. THEN, give everyone else permission not to agree with them. It does not matter if they agree or not. The feelings are YOURS. Christian Carter says that the confidence alone that comes from knowing you need no one else’s validation is a HUGE attraction boost, and will help you to Catch him and Keep Him.
Click here for more information on Christian Carter and Catch and Keep Him, and his philosophies that have changed womens’ lives.
Posted by Solutions for Women on September 2, 2009
With the flood of conflicting medical studies regarding all forms of hormone replacement therapy (HRT), it is no wonder so many women are confused about menopause treatment options.
It would be great to have one magic pill to heal all your hormonal woes, but the truth of the matter it takes a decent diet, exercise, added nutrition ─ in other words, doing all the things you know you should be doing to take better care of yourself.
If you are worried about the risks of HRT, you are not alone.
There are more than 60 million women in menopause and approximately 75 percent of these women do not take hormone replacement therapy.
- The FDA and the Women’s Health Initiative agree with the clinical findings for more then seven years ─ HRT increases your risk for breast cancer, heart attack, blood clots and stoke and it is feared that the made to order BHRT (bioidentical) have the same risks as HRT
- The National Cancer Institute have established 1 in 7 women will develop breast cancer in her lifetime
- The American Heart Association ranks heart disease as the leading cause of death among women
- Taking HRT can increase you biological risk factors for breast cancer and heart disease
You are your own best advocate when it comes to your health and the more information you have, the better you will feel about the decisions you make for menopause symptom management.
Hormone balance is important to your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual wellbeing.
- Menopause is a natural change
- By keeping informed you can be prepared for hormonal changes
- You can adapt to hormonal changes easily and quickly, and the change can be enjoyed.
- You can remain in good health and if needed, rebuild your health as your hormones change naturally
- Menopause does not cause illness, lifestyle does
- Good health and peace of mind come about when steps are taken to prevent the onset on of disease
Taking Femmerol will help you feel more like your self again. It is a holistic menopause treatment option that helps correct hormone deficiencies and imbalances.
- The ingredients in Femmerol are FDA approved for ingestion
- Have never been implicated in cancer or heart disease
- Femmerol meets FDA requirements
- Manufactured in a state of the art pharmaceutical facility
- Femmerol has earned its place in the US National Library of Medicine.
- Femmerol is a convenient, non chemical clinically tested effective menopause treatment option.
Be actively involved in you health and wellbeing everyday
- Exercise
- Eat healthy and balanced meals. Include an assortment of fruits, vegetables and grains
- Stop smoking if you smoke
- Get more sleep and try going to sleep and waking up at the same time each day
- If you drink daily or find you binge on weekends, decrease the amount of alcohol you drink or seek help to taper off
- Get to a healthy weight and stay there
- Take pharmaceutical grade multivitamin and additional high quality supplements (vitamins, minerals and herbs) to meet your needs
- Drink at least eight glasses of water each day
To better understand what to expect with hormonal change, do our symptom evaluation checklist and learn more about your symptoms.Click here.
Solutions for Women does not collect, track, or retain checklists or checklist entries. The checklist is only a tool to help you identify symptoms or patterns of symptoms that are common during peri-menopause and menopause.
Posted by Adminis on August 31, 2009
One of the questions that Christian Carter addresses in his Catch Him and Keep him eBook is how to have a conversation with a man in a way to promote attraction, especially when you first meet. In the Catch Him and Keep Him eBook, Christian Carter gives women several examples of attraction building questions that are unique, yet powerful questions in more ways than one.
One of the things a woman wants to be aware of when having an initial conversation with a man, according to Christian Carter, is the attraction that she is or can be creating for him. Attraction can be created using certain conversation techniques that lead a man to see how interesting, unique and unpredictable you are. These three qualities are very high on the list of what really DOES create attraction for a man.
One of the questions Christian Carter tells his readers to ask a man is “What kind of woman do you respect?” This questions is a VERY high value question, because not only is it a unique thing to ask in a conversation, but it also communicates to him that respect is high on YOUR list of characteristics. His answer will reveal to YOU how he looks at women, what qualities he looks for in a woman and what he likes and dislikes – all without you asking him twenty different questions to put together the same answer.
This also creates attraction for a man because it shows him that YOU are not too taken with him to realize that HE has to meet YOUR quality standards. Christian Carter writes that this is a “fun and subtle kind of tension building” (Christian Cater, Catch Him and Keep him, p 205) that helps lead to sexual tension and attraction for a man.
It’s ingenious, really. You are challenging him to answer a unique question, putting him on the spot to see how he will react and gauging his character all in one. Not too bad, huh, for 7 little words? This mix of seriousness and flirtatiousness is an attractive factor to most men, and will leave him intrigued and trying to see if he can answer your expectations in the right way.
It’s a turn on!
Christian Carter also reveals to women readers in his eBook that there are certain questions men may really want to AVOID answering. Well, too bad guys! We just have to find another way to ASK these questions, right? So things like asking him if he wants to settle down, have a family and a wife, or being honest about what kind of woman he wants to be with or have a relationship with – they are tough questions for a guy.
Christian carter says that the “secret is to not avoid these issues, but turn them to your advantage. Men have a whole set of “triggers” wired around these things that are waiting for women to tap into, as long as they are approached the right way. And if a woman can get to these triggers, she’ll have a whole different experience and a more direct kind of honesty with the guy that most women will never see” (Christian Carter, Catch Him and Keep Him, p 206) So – the idea is to approach these things in a unique and “cool” kind of way in order to challenge him, raise his attraction and get him intrigued and wanting more.
Here is some great examples right out of the Catch him and Keep Him eBook…
For example, using the same playful and confident tone, with a slight mischievous grin, asking, “So what are your weaknesses when it comes to women?”
“How would your last girlfriend describe you to her friends?”
“What have you always wanted in a woman that you haven’t come across yet?”
The idea, says Christian Carter, is to give him a challenge in a playful and fun way in order to keep the attraction going. This will paint you in a VERY unique light in HIS mind, and instantly make you more attractive than most of the other women he has likely met.
Dating after divorce
