Dating after divorce
Posted by AJCBSN on February 14, 2010
I have been divorced for 4 yrs, and have gone through alot of emotions before, during, and after. I have finally have closure on all of guilt and blaming. I have dated here and there over this time, but nothing real serious. Over the last few months I recently re-connected with a guy I dated college 20 yrs ago.We chated online for awhile about what has been going on in our lives. He too has been divorced only 4months. We finally met up right before New Year’s for drinks. Things were really nice, comfortable, and seemed to be going well. I didnt take it for much other than face value, and honestly had no expectations. We even joked about both being unsure if this was a “date”. I let him make the next move, whether he would call. and he did. Things seem to take off, he called, we texted, chatted online and phone. This was for about 3-4 weeks, then suddenly it all changed, he completely backed off. I finally said to him I do not want to be where I am not welcomed. He said rushes into things, wasnt looking for anything serious, and needs time, as he only has been divorced for a short time. He asked if I was mad, and I was honest, I told him I was feeling mad, hurt, and confused. I really started having feelings for this man, even in the short period of time, and I was mad at myself for letting this happen. About 1.1/2 wks went by I texted him a quick Hey how are things?. He responded, and then by that weekend we went out on another date. I felt I was not going to ask a million questions, hoping in the end he would bring it up, and he did. “I know yourmad at me” is how he started it, (this was the end of the night). He again explained, he basically needed to step back, he said “What am I doing here?”, then quickly said and not with me and not here, he is not a playboy and doesnt want to go date a million girls, and hasnt been with anyone since me. I responded with support knowing what he is going thorugh having been there. I havent heard from him since and its a week. Is this going anywhere? This is the first man I actually let my gaurd down and let in…Help….Help me know if I should hold out or let go….
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