One of the things a woman wants to be aware of when having an initial conversation with a man, according to Christian Carter, is the attraction that she is or can be creating for him. Attraction can be created using certain conversation techniques that lead a man to see how interesting, unique and unpredictable you are. These three qualities are very high on the list of what really DOES create attraction for a man.

One of the questions Christian Carter tells his readers to ask a man is “What kind of woman do you respect?” This questions is a VERY high value question, because not only is it a unique thing to ask in a conversation, but it also communicates to him that respect is high on YOUR list of characteristics. His answer will reveal to YOU how he looks at women, what qualities he looks for in a woman and what he likes and dislikes – all without you asking him twenty different questions to put together the same answer.

This also creates attraction for a man because it shows him that YOU are not too taken with him to realize that HE has to meet YOUR quality standards. Christian Carter writes that this is a “fun and subtle kind of tension building” (Christian Cater, Catch Him and Keep him, p 205) that helps lead to sexual tension and attraction for a man.

It’s ingenious, really. You are challenging him to answer a unique question, putting him on the spot to see how he will react and gauging his character all in one. Not too bad, huh, for 7 little words? This mix of seriousness and flirtatiousness is an attractive factor to most men, and will leave him intrigued and trying to see if he can answer your expectations in the right way.

It’s a turn on!

Christian Carter also reveals to women readers in his eBook that there are certain questions men may really want to AVOID answering. Well, too bad guys! We just have to find another way to ASK these questions, right? So things like asking him if he wants to settle down, have a family and a wife, or being honest about what kind of woman he wants to be with or have a relationship with – they are tough questions for a guy. 

Christian carter says that the “secret is to not avoid these issues, but turn them to your advantage. Men have a whole set of “triggers” wired around these things that are waiting for women to tap into, as long as they are approached the right way. And if a woman can get to these triggers, she’ll have a whole different experience and a more direct kind of honesty with the guy that most women will never see” (Christian Carter, Catch Him and Keep Him, p 206) So – the idea is to approach these things in a unique and “cool” kind of way in order to challenge him, raise his attraction and get him intrigued and wanting more. 

Here is some great examples right out of the Catch him and Keep Him eBook…

For example, using the same playful and confident tone, with a slight mischievous grin, asking, “So what are your weaknesses when it comes to women?”

“How would your last girlfriend describe you to her friends?”

“What have you always wanted in a woman that you haven’t come across yet?”

The idea, says Christian Carter, is to give him a challenge in a playful and fun way in order to keep the attraction going. This will paint you in a VERY unique light in HIS mind, and instantly make you more attractive than most of the other women he has likely met.