It would be great to have one magic pill to heal all your hormonal woes, but the truth of the matter it takes a decent diet, exercise, added nutrition ─ in other words, doing all the things you know you should be doing to take better care of yourself.

If you are worried about the risks of HRT, you are not alone.

There are more than 60 million women in menopause and approximately 75 percent of these women do not take hormone replacement therapy.

• The FDA and the Women’s Health Initiative agree with the clinical findings for more then seven years ─ HRT increases your risk for breast cancer, heart attack, blood clots and stoke and it is feared that the made to order BHRT (bioidentical) have the same risks as HRT

• The National Cancer Institute have established 1 in 7 women will develop breast cancer in her lifetime
• The American Heart Association ranks heart disease as the leading cause of death among women
• Taking HRT can increase you biological risk factors for breast cancer and heart disease

You are your own best advocate when it comes to your health and the more information you have, the better you will feel about the  decisions you make for menopause symptom management.

Hormone balance is important to your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual wellbeing.

• Menopause is a natural change
• By keeping informed you can be prepared for hormonal changes
• You can adapt to hormonal changes easily and quickly, and the change can be enjoyed.
• You can remain in good health and if needed, rebuild your health as your hormones change naturally
• Menopause does not cause illness, lifestyle does
• Good health and peace of mind come about when steps are taken to prevent the onset on of disease

Taking Femmerol will help you feel more like your self again. It is a holistic menopause treatment option that helps correct hormone deficiencies and imbalances.

• The ingredients in Femmerol are FDA approved for ingestion
• Have never been implicated in cancer or heart disease
• Femmerol meets FDA requirements
• Manufactured in a state of the art pharmaceutical facility
• Femmerol has earned its place in the US National Library of Medicine.
• Femmerol is a convenient, non chemical clinically tested effective menopause treatment option.

Be actively involved in you health and wellbeing everyday

• Exercise
• Eat healthy and balanced meals. Include an assortment of fruits, vegetables and grains
• Stop smoking if you smoke
• Get more sleep and try going to sleep and waking up at the same time each day
• If you drink daily or find you binge on weekends, decrease the amount of alcohol you drink or seek help to taper off
• Get to a healthy weight and stay there
• Take pharmaceutical grade multivitamin and additional high quality supplements (vitamins, minerals and herbs) to meet your needs
• Drink at least eight glasses of water each day

To better understand what to expect with hormonal change, do our symptom evaluation checklist and learn more about your symptoms.Click here.

Solutions for Women does not collect, track, or retain checklists or checklist entries. The checklist is only a tool to help you identify symptoms or patterns of symptoms that are common during peri-menopause and menopause.

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Symptoms associated with premenstrual tension, perimenopause and menopause don’t strike overnight. Although there are many reasons the amount of hormones circulating throughout our body change during monthly hormone fluctuations, perimenopause and menopause, most changes can be anticipated. We know when our periods are coming. If you suffer from premenstrual tension or hot flashes, consider what you can do to stabilize and maintain hormone balance.

Advancements in nutritional development, as well as findings within clinical studies and manufacturing technologies have given us something we can academically wrap our heads around. We have a wealth of medically proven non-drug tactics to manage perimenopause and menopausal symptoms. All the self-care things you do keep you in control of how you feel, and what keeps us healthy is not just one thing; it is the accumulation of all we do.

To learn more about what you can do for your symptoms of PMS, perimenopause and menopause, visit http://www.femmerol.com.

Femmerol is manufactured by Capsugel, a division of Warner-Lambert, GMP and US Pharmacopoeia approved. Click here and save $5.

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Have the Relationship YOU Want!

If you’re finding yourself being a “Girlfriend,” but he’s just not taking the relationship further, and he’s RESISTING your wishes for a full-on commitment and marriage, I know how stuck you feel.

And feeling stuck is about the worst feeling I can think of.

You can’t get away, and you can’t make things happen the way you want.

You need his co-operation and his DESIRE to get married, but – instead – he’s moving further and further AWAY from you.

You’ve read about my “Circular Dating” (dating lots of men all at the same time, as if they’re “circling” around you…).

You know you shouldn’t be stuck in what I call the “Girlfriend Trap” (where he gets all the good stuff of having a steady woman in his life and his bed, but doesn’t have to worry about real commitment).

You know you should do SOMETHING, but dating other men seems like an IMPOSSIBLE idea, because, like Nancy – you’re EXCLUSIVE!

You’re a “Girlfriend.”

And even THINKING about going out with another man feels horrible.

It feels almost terrifying – like you could destroy the relationship you have now with the man you love.

I know what this feels like to the bottom of my toes – I LIVED with a man for 4 years who never wanted to marry me.

What was I thinking?

Well, I was watching my dreams of weddings and rings and family and children and lifelong happiness just disappear.

And it felt terrible.

And the worst part was – I felt helpless to do anything about it.

Well – you don’t have to suffer like I did.

Here’s a letter from Nancy, who’s stuck just like I was. Let’s pull her situation apart and I’ll show you how to do “Circular Dating” EVEN IF you’re already exclusive with a man:

“Dear Rori, My situation is this. I have dated this wonderful guy for almost 3 yrs. We were exclusive for about 2 yrs, then we broke up because he’s confused about what he wants in life and doesn’t want to hurt me. So I carried on, heartbroken but I did it.

And then came calls and texts from him missing me, so I slowly started to come back around. He is the man I want as a husband and a father one day. He knows all this but he is scared to commit to me.

He always feared marriage. I told him ‘I spend a lot of my time with you and if you can’t commit then I am going to start to date other people.’ I think this scares him but not enough to commit fully. Its not that he wants other women because that’s his last priority. He is a very busy man with work.

What is odd is that he brings up the future talk, wedding, rings, house etc…but never follows thru with buying the ring and going the next step. I just don’t get what to do…I feel bad to date other guys, cause my heart is with this one…What should I do?? Sincerely, Nancy”

Just reading Nancy’s letter makes me feel frustrated and angry – just like I did all those many years ago.

It’s like you’re on the race track of your life, and you’re stuck in first gear.

All the other race cars pass you by.

And the thing is — it’s not your fault!

You’re just the driver.

It’s the CAR that’s stuck in first gear!

Who wouldn’t be mad at the car?

And yet – you have to do something…stop in the pit, change cars, find a different, slower race – something – or you go crazy with frustration and anger.

So, what do you do?

You move AWAY from exclusivity, slowly.

You walk away from the “Trap.”

And Why IS exclusivity a trap?

It’s a trap because ANY man would be happy to be exclusive with you.

This way he gets to reel you in, keep you around, have sex with you, and run the show.

He gets to call the shots – to say he’s “confused” or he’s “not ready” – while your love life – your whole “Happy Ever After” is stuck in the gear of HIM!

You’re tied to HIM as your “Love Car.”

And that makes us feel helpless and crazy, and makes our self-esteem plunge downward more every day.

So, if exclusivity is the trap, how do you get out of the trap without losing your man?

How do you “Circular Date” (dating a lot of men all at the same time, as if they’re all “circling” around you) when you’ve agreed to exclusivity?

How do you move away from exclusivity, while at the same time making HIM want MORE with you?

And how do you do it without breaking up with him?

Here are some steps:

(You can read more about gaining conversational skills and fearlessness in  my ebook on pages 147  through 150.   You can get it here: http://tinyurl.com/RoriRa )

1.Don’t THREATEN.

Notice How Nancy says “I told him ‘I spend a lot of my time with you and if you can’t commit then I am going to start to date other people.’ I think this scares him but not enough to commit fully.”?

Trying to SCARE a man never works.

It feels like a game to him.

On some level, he believes you’ll never leave him.

It has nothing to do with what you say.

And it doesn’t have anything to do with what you DO, either.

Yes – you could even actually DATE other men, but if you’re doing it to spite him, or as a game or strategy – he’ll feel it for what it really is – DESPERATION.

You’ll feel even MORE clingy and desperate to him, and he’ll just back away more.

So don’t threaten to date other men. Don’t even talk about it with him until you get the only thing that’s REALLY important:

2. Understand that YOU hold all the power.

This seems hard to get – I mean, if you want to commit and he doesn’t, it feels like HE has all the power – but he DOESN’T – YOU DO.

You have what he wants. You have what he’s attracted to.

You don’t have to DO anything to show him you have the power – you just have to FEEL it.

So go ahead and talk yourself into this.

Just keep imagining that you’re holding your man in the palm of your hand.

3. Date Yourself and Flirt

…For now – Do this:

Make a list of things you like to do OUTSIDE (not in your home) – at places where there are men.

Then get dressed up so YOU feel attractive and turned on to YOU – and go out.

The idea is to have fun and practice my Tools with every man you meet, no matter who he is.

And part of simply being who you are and having fun will be “Flirting.”

That means you smile and hold eye contact, and get curious about every man you meet.

It means you practice being a magnet for men.

Flirting means you’re just having fun, practicing my Tools, making and holding eye contact, smiling – and that just HAPPENS to look like Flirting!

4. Tell your man you love him and that you can’t be exclusive right now…

This is the big one.

In order to do this, you have to have men asking for your phone number, you have to have men friends to spend time with, and you have to have your Dating Yourself and Flirting stuff happening.

Automatically, men will be attracted to you.

Sooner or later, you’ll get an offer you don’t really want to turn down.

When that happens, you write a speech to the man you’re with saying that “he’s entitled to take all the time he needs to decide about committing to a lifelong relationship with you, and that you feel awful waiting around, it’s making you feel insecure and frustrated and you don’t want to feel that way, and that other men are starting to ask you out and you want to feel free to explore your options until he makes a decision.”

This is NOT an ultimatum.

This is NOT a Threat.

This is a simple, easy-going statement of YOU taking CARE of YOURSELF!

He may come back with a “Well – then I’ll just date other women..”

He may call you selfish and a bitch.

He may get very, very angry.

And this is GOOD!

I told you that you have all the power – and your ability to make him angry at the thought he can no longer “string you along” is proof of that!

Do not rise to the bait.

Do not argue, explain, defend, get angry, or tell him anything except…

“Well, I don’t want you to date other women, I want you all to myself. And it doesn’t feel good to me to let you have me all to yourself until you’re ready to commit. I won’t be able to handle your dating other women.”

And then turn around and walk away.

I know this is a lot to absorb.

Let me know how it works for you… and please, treat yourself to my eBook Have The Relationship YOU Want and learn everything you can do, starting today, to really turn your relationship around.

http://tinyurl.com/RoriRa

Love, Rori

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It’s easy to automatically think that the other person feels the same way we do.  The fear that we may be wrong prevents us from talking about it.  So many people believe they are in an exclusive relationship when the other person just sees him or her as one of many available options.

There are at least 5 very easy ways to avoid confusion as to where you stand:

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1.You and a man you are seeing should have a talk about your feelings about each other and about how you two feel about seeing other people.  If he does not want to share you with other men, he will make sure you know this.  But make sure he will reciprocate. Sometimes a man is capable of building a harem with women who are faithful to him while he still allows himself all the ladies he wants.  If he wants a harem then you are free to date whoever you want.  Just remember the two of you are no more than friends with benefits.

Last night Scot and I went out to a live music dance club.  This place is special to me because it is where he made me more than just a friend.  Scot let me know his intentions to be good to me and protect my heart.  He asked me to be his girlfriend–for us to be in an exclusive relationship with each other.  This was made very clear without doubts.

Remember:  If you have to ask then you are not exclusive.

2.If a man is focusing on you alone, he will want to see you as often as he can in a week–especially if you live in the same city and work allows free time.  Seeing each other at least three times a week portends this fairly accurately.  Men and women only have so many days out of the week to go out on dates.  Are those times spent with you or are they shared with a list of other women?  If you only see him every other week, then most likely you’re not the only one he is seeing.

3.A man who is interested only in you looks forward to making plans for weekends with you, and may be planning trips for the two of you to go on.  While it’s true he may be spontaneous and call you at the last minute to join him for an outing, a good sign that he has a harem is that he always waits until the last minute to ask you out.  This usually happens because he’s not so sure if the one he asked as his first choice will show up.  Maybe she even canceled on him.  Don’t confuse this with spontaneity.   I’m not talking about a surprise or a gift; I’m talking about if the “last minute notice” is a habit.  He is waiting to see if someone better to go out with will be available, as being pinned down to plans does not leave him options.  Think about this if he calls you Friday at 6:00 to invite you to a concert for that day, and he had the tickets for 3 months.  Why would he not give you more notice? Because the person he planned to take flaked out on him, that’s why.  If you did not know about it at all the aabsolutely was a girl who flaked out not one of the guys.

4.As his exclusive girlfriend if you need to reach him for something important, he is ok with you calling him at home or on his cell phone any time of the day or night.  But if you are part of a harem, there are rules like not calling at night or on hishome phone.  Also you always seem to get voice mail, having to wait for when it is convenient for him to call you and talk.  If he leaves on a trip and will not talk to you while he is gone, then this is a red flag that he has at least one other girlfriend or maybe even a wife.

5.The famous words of a harem builder is “I would love to settle down when the right women comes along”.  This statement is used to pose a challenge to you, which will make you feel that you have toprove that you are the right woman and that if you stick around he will figure that out eventually.  After you have been dating for a few months things should be moving forward, in an exclusiverelationship.  Not that you have a ring on your finger yet,  but that you have conversations about the future together, kids, and getting to know one another.  This also needs to be demonstrated with actions, not just words.  An example would be going from seeing you once a week in the start of a relationship to increasing it over time to 2, 3, or 4 times a week.

If a relationship you are in has been on for a while but is the same as day one, it’s time to consider what we’ve talked about today as a very possible reason why.

Have fun,

Emily McKay

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